The assignment was to write a letter to one of your teachers telling them what they wanted or needed to say. Here are excerpts from a letter from a student:
Dear Mr. ___,
If the world were fair, good teachers would obscure the teachers less perfect. Too bad that you should be one of those in the shade. During math, I was repeatedly insulted with the names that you called me ugly. This was not a big deal in my life, you and your class could easily be overlooked. But it was not easy for a lot of people I know.
Sam was a gentle person, a typical teenager with less than typical home life. He went through things no kid should not even know, no matter live. Sam was not able to put your insults behind him. He took the easy way. He began to skip your class. After a little 'miss your class, began to lose all day. Less than a year later, Sam was deeply into drugs and other things that a person would never wish on any child. In the 12 years I have shared classes with Sam, I saw many teachers unsuccessfully try to do better for him, but I'll always remember that teacher who successfully made it worse.
Fast forward about four years from the date of this letter was written, and here the latest news about Sam: It 's been spotted walking near the home of Chris, his old friend and the author of the letter checked out. Sam was screaming and shouting as he came down the road. His clothes were in tatters, and it seemed as if he were homeless and under the influence of alcohol or other substances. "Chris!" shouted while pounding on the door of his former classmate of. "Chris, what still live here?" Chris had moved to the first year of college that was not there to open the door. Sam continued shouting and mumbling and mix down the road.
Fast forward again years about 1 more. Sam has been seen on the main road running through the center of his city. He tried to throw himself into traffic.
What is the sad story of Sam? The point is that the kids never get in Math class and announce that they were beaten last night and can not stand any more abuse. No student will ever say: "My father called me bad names already before leaving school, then please, do you stop?" As a teacher or counselor, your site should be a refuge, a haven for students who have heavy loads. Is it?
You may be surprised to know that this issue is one of the main areas that participants in our Breakthrough Strategies to teach and Counsel Troubled Youth "Workshop ask us to cover. They are tired of "bad attitudes of my colleagues," it is difficult for some teachers are children, "adults who are burned," "adult stiffness and insensitivity", and "what to do when adults make the situation much worse . In our laboratory, counselors, principals and teachers with special and often describe themselves as teachers and other adults sometimes steamroll over a child, weak, indifferent to the burden that adds to the already heavy burden of a child. One story stands out. A girl asked to go see the nurse rather than laps in PE The teacher denied the request despite repeated appeals from the child to go to the nurse, office, or call his mother because of what she said was a stomach ache. Ultimately, the girl had no choice but to run laps. Soon collapsed and almost died of an appendix burst.
No matter where we are in North America, participants in the workshop to become the greatest difficulties, and animated discouraged if the search for solutions when the adults contribute to the problems that students present. In our laboratory, we actually provide participants with highly unusual, but extremely effective "adult attitude control devices." These definitely cal, experiential methods can not be adequately captured in an e-mail, but here is a device you can use with your team that could possibly help. It lacks the drama and power of our adult attitude adjustment devices better, but it is a good starting point to get your staff thinking about how students impact. As we shall see in our laboratory, changing the minds of adults' how to view and interact with students is a little 'how to change peoples opinions' of religion or political change occurs frequently due to chatter. Indirect methods more convincing shock work better. Since we can not "shock", with an e-mail, here is our nearest posting if you can not come to a workshop session of Spring 2005 Live. In a departure from our usual, be sure to see That this action is a quiz that is designed for use with adults, not children. This is only an excerpt from the full quiz, to get the whole document, read the following "-Up" below:
Rate your attitude
Think you're neutral, friendly, objective and not too burned out? Then check this out.
1. Problem Students
As you can see it is difficult to manage, the students? Have you ever said "Nothing is going to work with that?" Ever tried to convince your boss to put this child in the classroom of someone else?
2. Special needs students
Have you ever said "ADD children are just lazy kids" or "These types of guys take too much of my time?
3. Several students
Young people with accents and different skin colors unknown can be a growing part of your group. Have you ever thought, "Oh, not another," or "It will be too slow," a child of a different background?
4. Troubled Students
Ever pushed on a child with poor performance only to discover that the child had been hampered by beatings, disease, lack or tragedy?
If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, you run the risk of harming students - especially those carrying heavy loads. There is a danger of ignoring clear signals, such as physical education teacher in the story above. You also run the risk of loss of evidence that are not even say aloud, such as those offered by Sam. It's never want to end up thinking that would behave very differently - if you had known. If you answered "yes" - or if some members of your team should answer "yes" - the quiz questions, it is important to change the beliefs and actions now before the damage is done, which may be irreparable. If not now get help from a lab like ours, 'or other resource that shows how to manage your students in a different way, you run the risk of one day in fear that you bear some responsibility for Sam jumping in the middle traffic. There are Sams in any environment where there are children. If you hone your ability to respond correctly, do not add to the costs of Sam, and may even prevent him from ever running out on the road.
No comments:
Post a Comment